This morning I yelled out to the Universe, “What do I do with them?! What am I supposed to do?!! This is ridiculous!!!” I paused for a second because my voice was loud and angry and then I thought, “Well, I am pissed! These people are fucking ridiculous!” And I left it at that.
I have a very difficult client that I manage at work (the day job). This client is not just one person though, it is several individuals and their personalities are like none that I have EVER had to interact with before (at least on a long term basis that is). I have worked with them for the last three years and it has been a jerky ride from day one. I know they are in my life for a broader reason – there are valuable gems hidden in these relations, I know this. But the constant feeling of being *shit on* by them makes it hard to appreciate why they are here in my life. Absurd requests, insane numbers of emails in one day, jabs in my side in front of others about something I made a mistake on months ago, over controlling behaviors, belittlement, cutting me off mid-sentence, and the list goes on and on. LET ME TELL YOU, THESE PEOPLE ARE FUCKING RIDICULOUS.
But here is what happened! Later that day as I’m sitting at my computer I become very aware of all of the buzzing around in the office and a peaceful tone takes over me. I take a deep cleansing breath and then this thought comes to me out of nowhere. My hand writes:
“LOVE THEM. Love them so much in every way you can think of.”
I knew right then and there this was my response from the beautiful (and always responding) Universe. This is what I have to do. This is my lesson from them – the path to uncovering the hidden gems that lie within this experience. My gift to myself, my gift from the Universe and my gift from them, unknowingly.
Just like that my entire perspective is changed and I feel 100 times better. Loving these people in a Divine way regardless of their ridiculousness in every way possible is how I will move through this – this is why they are in my life. Sending loving and thoughtful email responses, following up on things that matter to them, caring about the outcome with them, taking full ownership of my work, responding gently and lovingly, picking up the phone when there is a concern.
Alright now, I need to hear your comments, thoughts and experiences in dealing with extremely ridiculous people. What has worked? What hasn’t worked? Did you give in or did you accept the assignment? Your comments are viewed by thousands of visitors that come to this blog each day and what you write may just be what someone needs to hear in order to have the breakthrough they need.
And by the way, thank you for your love, for sharing my work with your friends and for making writing this blog one of my most favorite things to do in the world.
With love and sincere gratitude,